In Australia ‘we’ love sport. The Olympic and Commonwealth Games always get me cranky because there is so much propaganda that is willingly taken on and suddenly everyone who doesn’t give a shit about most of the sports and athletes for the rest of the time, suddenly becomes and addict and expert for 2 weeks.
Previously, I would be really upset at being thought to be the upset one in my family because I feel like I’m always hiding my feelings to keep everyone else happy. I’ve given that up. Which is good on two fronts. Firstly I don’t lose my shit at the family shenanigans. Secondly I don’t lose my shit at their expectation that I would.
This morning I tried on some clothes I haven’t worn in a while and was quite shocked at my shape. I can easily go weeks without really looking at myself that closely. I check that my outfit is clean and tidy and appropriate for what I’m doing, but when so much of what I’m doing is at home it’s easy to slip into the tracky dacks and stopping noticing.
Legal ages for marriage and sex have moved according to different social norms. Kids used to be sent down the mines before they were 10 and there is still plenty of child labour around the world. It’s those tiny little fingers, so helpful for delicate tasks and small spaces.
Giving myself this time to think about myself has freed up some of that need through the rest of my day. I feel like I’m more attentive to other people and the tasks I’m doing because I’ve already had time to focus on me, or know I’ll get that time shortly.
I hate weddings. All the pretentious, exaggerated, showing off, slave to the current trend, competing and general aggravation. I don’t want a wedding, I want a marriage.
She’s sweet and very talkative but she gets stuck on transmit. She’ll ask a question and part way through your answer she finds something she can relate to and goes off on a tangent for 20 minutes about it. You rarely get to finish your answer. Like my mother, so I’m well practiced in that. Also I’ve had 40 years to work through the cycle of obedience, annoyance, rebellion and all the way through to acceptance.
Today I had lunch with a colleague who has become a friend. She is in a similar position to me, moving away from employee land to self-employment. She’s almost a decade younger than me and I love to hear how she sees the world.
But you know what, I think it’s just this kind of openness that will get them the job. I want to say naivety, and I mean that with respect and a bit of wonder at the boldness it takes to embrace that naivety and just bloody well give it a shot.But you know what, I think it’s just this kind of openness that will get them the job. I want to say naivety, and I mean that with respect and a bit of wonder at the boldness it takes to embrace that naivety and just bloody well give it a shot.
Positivity has as much chance of working as negativity. Surprise is much more likely to happen.